Dear Jerks -- Errr Learning Beings

Dear Immature Jerks

Oh, dear! I meant to say, "Dear learning and growing human beings." Because I know that you can learn and grow. But, I know that someone has to love you enough to tell you not to be an ass.

Here are some of my parents rules:
+Do not be an ass.
+Do not act like an ass.
+Do not act like an ass where people can see you.
+SOMEONE CAN ALWAYS SEE YOU, YOU ASS!
+God can see you.
+Yes, YOU are accountable.
+No, it does not matter what other people do, who did it first, how many other people did it, how big they are, how popular they are... Do not be an ass; do not act like an ass; and do not let people see you being an ass.
+Yes, you have to stand up to other people who are being asses even if it is a little dicey. Anything short of life-threatening and you have to man up.
+Yes, I know that you are very small girls. I don't care. Yes, it is a misogynistic saying. Yes, you have to stand up to other people who are being asses and I don't care what that means as long as it is short of life-threatening. Then call for help.
+NO! I don't care if you are popular or not. Why are you even asking such a stupid question?
+Do. Not. Be. An. Ass. Stand tall. Even is you are the smallest person in your entire school. Do the right thing.
+I define being as ass, not you. It includes all violence, all breaking of the law, all bullying, all vulgarity, all breaking of the 10 commandments, all rude behavior, sleeping in church, making fun of people and anything else that suits me at the moment.
+Of course that includes no fist fighting with your sisters.

So, of course, the 11th Commandment is, "Thou Shalt Not Use Vulgar Misogynistic Language."

Just in case your parents did not tell you... just in case your teachers did not tell you... just in case your Sunday School teachers, neighbors, grandparents... didn't tell you, misogynistic language is ugly insulting language about women.

Ugly insulting rude and rotten words about women include: slut, bitch, whore, cunt, pussy, skank... I would like to take away the power of these words to wound, to horrify. I want to take away the magic. When you use those words, you make an ass of yourself, not the girl.

Jerks of the world, when you use these words, people look down on YOU!

I often wonder if men -- and boys -- know that there are girls that would not go out with them; would not want to be seen in public with them; would be embarrassed for their friends to know that they had ever gone out with them because they act like asses. 

There are girls that will never go out with you, wonderful people who will never associate with you and jobs you will never get (not because they are all snobs) but because you are a vulgar, crude, rude Neanderthal. And, your parents should have taught you that.

Damn, I have insulted Neanderthals again. So, if you are rude and crude and thinking it is cute and clever, you might wonder what your references say about. What real men really think about you. Wonder why someone really turned you down.

Did you know that there are web-pages (and some very good ones!) dedicated to helping men figure out how to be better, kinder, more loving, more skilled, and more sophisticated men? Find one. Improve yourself and watch your life improve.

I love you! I really, really do!

Vivian