Dear Baby Mommies

Dear Baby Mommies:

Today, my friend Barb Bates wrote you this letter. I edited it a wee bit and re-formatted it. The words in italics are mine. The rest are hers. We both love you. Young women never recover financially, educationally, in the job market... in any way... from early motherhood.

We love you! Vivian

                         START WITH THE WOMAN IN THE MIRROR

Someone is always sending messages about the responsibility of Daddies. Most times I agree.

 BUT, there is another side that we seem afraid to talk about, SO I WILL agree (about the responsibilities of fathers) and also say that "choice" is very important.

Girls make choices. They choose the kind of men or boys they date. They choose at what age to have sex. They choose whether to have sex. Who to have sex with. When to have sex. They choose whether they use contraception. They choose how reliably to use contraception. They choose whether to also use condoms in addition to a more reliable form of birth control.

Girls and boys don't need to conceive children; that is for married men and women. We as women tend to blame men for not becoming daddies just because a baby is born.

What evidence did this "BOY" give you that this would happen??? That he would become a Daddy just because you had a baby? Some of us have given ourselves to old grown "boys" and we knew they would not make good Daddies but we had sex without protecting ourselves anyway.

Today there are so many ways to keep from becoming a parent. (Not Abortion; that's murder.)

And, there are so many wonderful families longing to adopt children.

We need to STOP bringing children in this world who will probably LIVE POOR, NOT BECOME A PART OF A LOVING FAMILY, DO POORLY IN SCHOOL, USE DRUGS AND ALCOHOL, Have Mental problems, and be filled with self hate.

WOMEN and girls can stop some of the problems in our race and the community. THINK BEFORE YOU SEX.!!!!! Take personal responsibility. Protect yourself and the poor innocent children who need two loving, responsible parents. We all have made mistakes but it is time to STOP placing blame.

Start with the Woman in the Mirror.