Wednesday, October 5, 2016

Dear Lians

My Dear Dear Lying Friends and Neighbors:

I know why politicians lie. 

What is really sickening is the dishonesty on the part of my friends and neighbors: voters. 

Why do you lie? 

Oh, wait!?! You are a Conservative Christians? Don't you realize that "bearing false witness" means "telling lies?" It is. I wouldn't lie to you. It really is.

Lying includes far more than claiming that the sky is always green.   

Shocking news: Creating a false impression is lying, too. That means that when you use "buzz-words" to create a false impression, you are lying.

When you tell part of a story to create a false impression, you are lying.

When you share others' lies, you are lying. Yes, even if it is a really cute meme.

When you watch television, read newspapers, and read journals and blogs that are lying, you are participating in lying and enabling liars.

Didn't your parents count it is as a lie if you shared information that was a lie? Yes, they did. Or they should have. 

Refusing to read, watch, or believe contradictory information is participating in a lie.

It is perfectly alright to have values! To vote on your values! To vote for candidates that share your values!

You don't have to lie about it.

Don't make me call your parents! Stop it right now!

Love, Vivian

Monday, October 3, 2016

Dear Evangelicals


Dearest Evangelical, Right Wing, Ultra-Conservative, One and Only 
True Religious:

No! I'm not talking to Muslims! I'm talking to you Conservative Christians - the only ones in all the earth who go to heaven.

The only ones that God speaks to. Wait! God chose to speak to Pat Robertson and not Stephen Hawking? What's that about?

I have breaking news! 

Other religions also believe that they are the “one and only true religion.”

Many religions (most?) view others’ religion as wrong, in error, etc, also. They believe that you are in the wrong.

There is no reason for Conservative Christians to be riled because others view them as infidels when they view every other religious person as an infidel.

In fact, some religions do not view themselves as a belief system or religion but as “reality.”

People just are not attracted to being told that they are going to burn in ever-lasting hell. Not a lot of appeal there.

Many Conservative Christians are very out-spoken in their condemnation of everyone and everything that they disagree with. That is what others experience: condemnation, judgment, etc.

Evangelical/Conservative Christians, in fact, seem to have set the goal of being the judges of all peoples and all religions.

Do any Evangelical/Conservative Christian leaders preach loving one’s neighbor as oneself? Publicly? Privately, they sometimes love their neighbors a bit tooooo much.

Do any Evangelicals take seriously Jesus’ commandments? To go into a closet to pray. To not make a public spectacle of oneself. To feed the poor. Visit the imprisoned. Care for widows and orphans?

Experiences that might make one bitter – or at least not receptive:

My child was told by a youth minister that her father was not going to heaven (she knew that meant going to hell) because he is Jewish.

I have heard a group of Evangelicals condemning Lutherans (Lutherans!) as “not Christian” because they believe in “good works.”  Good works!

I have been told that the mainline Christian Church that I grew up in is a “cult” because we believe that “Faith without works is dead.”  A cult!

My dearest friends, ask me if I believe that God has spoken to you (and to you alone) and appointed you the judges of the rest of humanity?

Why, no! She spoke to me and me alone!

Thursday, August 1, 2013

Dear Chief and the CapPo

Dear Chief Erwin & the CapPo:

My goodness, you cannot imagine how much I love you! You aren't going to hire trolls to shut down my FB page are you? 

I have a single daughter. Every night I pray that she will marry a man who struts instead of walking; who never smiles; who barks instead of talking; who wear a buzz cut & looks shockingly like a skin-head; who puffs out his chest and harasses... musicians! Oh, my! What a wedding under the chuppa!

I was looking at your Mission Statement, Core Values, Objectives and Commitments.

Nothing there surprised me at all!

You are such manly men and women! I love your hyper-masculinity. You know every mental health professional in the USA is in their hay-day, don't you? Smiling!


"To project an aura of authoritarian power and control that will intimidate everyone everywhere all the time just because we can."

I love it! It is so... inclusive!

And, your Core Values are so... so... Right Wing.


1. Power & Control
2. Testosterone
3. High & tight with painfully close shave
4. Loud deep voices
5. Puffed out chests and puffed up egos

And, my, you have such admirable and macho...


1. To arrest as many visitors to the Capitol as possible.
2. To earn extra points toward promotion by arresting frail elderly people.
3. To earn maximum points by causing the dangerous altos and sopranos to fall by walking too fast or by pushing them down the stairs. Or, tripping them.
4. To impress Republican bosses by tightening the cuffs on the arms of little old ladies and little old men so tight that their arms go to sleep and leave marks on them. 

VERY manly and very sexy!

Well, if I were you, I would have my testosterone levels checked immediately because this sounds counter-phobic. Look it up! It is my professional opinion that you have serious questions about your masculinity and hence, your hyper-masculine behavior. 

I love you as, of course, I love all of the wounded, ill, injured, damaged, misbegotten, ill-informed, ignorant, phony, mongrel, imperfect, inferior, baseborn, mongrels of this imperfect world we live in.

Oh, my dear! I hope I didn't hurt anyone's feelings. I do fear that the Cap-Po are giving men a bad name.

Love and peace,

Thursday, July 25, 2013

Dear Feminists - It's a BFS

Dear Feminists:

Have we just screwed ourselves - metaphorically speaking, of course?

In the interest of persuading men and women-hating women that we are as capable and competent as men, have we grossly underestimated the seriousness and significance of women's reproductive issues including menstruation, pregnancy and childbirth.

Let me put it this way. At least weekly, my father had some huge temper tantrum or became grief-stricken and cried over something such as seeing a poor child at the grocery store. Or, he became upset with my mother and threatened to leave her - he was incapable of getting through the day without her. Or, someone died and he was unable to set foot inside a funeral home because he was emotionally unable to.

Yet, no one doubted his capacity to hold a job.

On the other hand, my mother never had a temper tantrum, never missed a day of work, attended every funeral and I was 18 before I ever saw her cry. She made a lot of people cry, but no one had ever seen her cry.

But, people were concerned in those days that she might be unable to work when she got her period or if she had children.

So, we have been making light of periods, pregnancy, childbirth and child rearing for about 50 years now.

Now, politicians seem to be completely unaware that women absolutely have to have reproductive health care their entire lives and it is a big f#$*ing deal.

And, conservatives think women have abortions for convenience - sort of like stopping by the 7-11.

Maybe I took after my father and am a big crybaby, but menstrual periods were a really big deal. 

I had dysmenorrhea. When I got my period, I got chills, diarrhea, extreme pain and cramping, and vomited for the first day of my period. 

And, pregnancy and childbirth are really big deals. Such big deals that women all over the world would rather die than be pregnant or give birth.

Pregnancy is a life altering event for everyone and a life ruining event for most young girls and many women of any age.

Pregnant women often gain enormous amounts of weight. Pregnancy ruins the shape of your body forever.

Many women suffer nausea, heartburn, headaches, swelling, urinary frequency, backaches, constipation, breast tenderness. 

Some women are nauseated for months and some experience such severe nausea that they have to be hospitalized. 

There is absolutely nothing funny about childbirth in spite of how it is portrayed in movies. It is horrendous. 

When my daughter was born, the nurses told us that there were so many patients in the obstetrical ward were unhappy! Why? There were so many girls too young to be having children. We thought we were on the "happy ward!" No, not so.

Young girls and boys have sexual desires and desires for relationship, comfort, commitment, etc. years before they have any ability to take care of a baby.

So, there is a truth that is just not being addressed. Women and girls are not having abortions for "convenience" as conservatives and Evangelicals would have us believe. 

Just as in the past, girls and women have abortions because an un-planned un-wanted pregnancy is a terrible horrible thing and they would rather be dead. Nothing will stop abortion. Nothing.

And, women's reproductive health care and experiences are really big deals.

With love for women everywhere.


Monday, July 15, 2013

Dear Gov & Lt. Gov - About Those Unions

Dear Governor and Lt. Governor:

I was remembering my childhood today - and, thinking about your goals to disempower unions.

You both have very limited experience of life. Let me share mine:

Unions are necessary for survival. Do I believe in unions? You bet.

Do I believe in the 40 hour work week, paid over-time, lunch breaks, bathroom breaks, no child labor, safety regulations, NO LOCKED EXIT DOORS IN FACTORIES, living wages, employer based medical insurance...

I grew up in Appalachia. And, that is where Wisconsin is headed. Not on purpose, but because you lack life experience and you believe that your pursuit of the corporate agenda is harmless.

The corporate agenda reached Appalachia 150 years ago.

But, I will paint a picture: My father working outside at hard physical labor in broiling Southern sun and humidity traveling where ever he had to for union wages and with medical care - and able to send his girls to college. 

Half mile away non-union coal miners, emaciated, working underground in dangerous mines, getting Black Lung Disease, working every hour they could AND THEIR CHILDREN, MY CLASS MATES, GOING HUNGRY! I could write a book. 

Guv, do you see a lot of children going hungry - day after day after day? Or experience hunger day after day after day? Or hopelessness... Forever.

People in KY died to unionize. I believe in unions. Watch "Harlan County USA." My father's birthplace.

Now, I am in Wisconsin watching it turn into Appalachia. I am sick about it. It is not about conservative politics. It is about corporatism. I don't think either of you are brilliant thinkers, but I am pretty sure you know that. 

May God have mercy on your souls.

Love and best wishes, Vivian

P.S. I sent this love letter today and I invite you to do so also. You may simply state, "I agree with the writer" if you don't want to write your own letter.

Sunday, July 14, 2013

Dear Anti-Choice Men: Part II

Dear Anti-choice Men:

Does shouting at people change behavior? You seem to think so. You just seem to shout the same old arguments over and over and over and...

Your basic arguments seem to be that:

1. Women who have unplanned pregnancies should show more self-control. They are sluts, in other words.

2. But... but... but... abortion is killing babies, anti-choice men repeat... over & over & over...  

So, I'll try shouting and see how effective it is!

+People, DO NOT have sex before commitment!!!
+Unmarried partners, DO NOT have sex without a condom!!!
+Everyone, ALWAYS use effective birth control as directed +Use birth control ALL THE TIME EVERY TIME !!!

Women, NEVER EVER get pregnant by mistake -- 
+even if you don't have insurance, 
+do not live anywhere near a free clinic,
+do not live near Planned Parenthood,
+cannot afford the price of the most effective contraception, 
+do not have transportation,

Even though birth control isn't 100% effective, you must NEVER EVER GET PREGNANT BY MISTAKE.

Following the logic, poor women cannot afford to have sex!

None of this takes into account natural sexual drives and the human desire for companionship and communication.

Poor women cannot afford the best & most effective birth control and they cannot afford to have children. 

Screwed, literally & figuratively. Celibate until they win the lottery, go to med school or become the next guv - no need to get an education for that!

Now, anti-choice men, mothers and fathers have been screaming those messages to their teens for a few millennium.  But, let's try screaming anyway. I am going to shout at you

ABORTION IS NOT KILLING BABIES. That is YOUR belief. It is not everyone's belief. That is your religion. It is not every religion. It is a belief, not a fact. Other peoples, religions, cultures have NOT believed that a fertilized egg, a zygote, or an embryo is a baby. In other times, cultures and religions, an embryo wasn't considered "human" until it "breathed the breath of life."

WOMEN DO NOT HAVE ABORTIONS FOR CONVENIENCE!  How patronizing can you get?  Men, you have just proven that you are completely out of touch with the lives of women! Unplanned pregnancy & children can ruin the lives of families, women and couples who are already living on the margins socially, financially, emotionally. 


Women risk their lives, all over the world, to have abortions because they would rather be dead than bring another child into their world.

Women living below the poverty level in the USA are 5 times more likely to have an abortion than women who live above the poverty level.

Women who cannot feed, clothe, house, or educate a child are more likely to have an abortion. Women who cannot care for existing children, who already have a child too close in age, who do not have support or a stable relationship are more likely to have an abortion.

And, adoption? No, far too many women just cannot even face pregnancy. Women all over the world risk death every day rather than risk pregnancy. Pregnancy is not without risk. It is not an inconvenience. It can be an overwhelming physical, emotional, intellectual experience -- even when happily anticipated. 

The very fact of a pregnancy being unplanned presents likely complications. Because of lack of awareness: no prenatal care, alcohol and drug use, continued use of dangerous medications, etc. 


Ah... the reason that I know that decreasing the incidence of abortion isn't really the goal is that the best way of doing that is to make contraception easily accessible and affordable.

The lowest abortion rates in the world are in Western Europe where abortion is legal and contraception is easily available.

So, is the shouting working?

With love in my heart!


Dear Anti-Choice Men: Part I

Dear Anti-Choice Men:

How can I say this in the most loving way possible? Hmmm...

Shut the f@#$ up!!!

Completely & with my whole heart I can understand people who simply believe that abortion is wrong. I can.

What I cannot stomach are the ignorant and sexist comments that men make about women and abortion.

I visit pro-choice site after site after site and who do I see? Anti-choice women? NO! Anti-choice men! 

Gentlemen, and I mean that facetiously, get another hobby.

May I suggest masturbation?

In the kindest way possible, I am telling you that abortion is none of your business. Because it isn't your body.

BTW, have you just been planting your seed everywhere and you think that every pregnancy in the world is your business?

Why in the name of God are YOU suggesting that women exercising self-control? Where is/was YOUR self-control? It takes two to create a zygote, Mister. 

What about abstinence for YOU? All of you. There would be no unplanned pregnancy without you, men.

What about postponing sex until commitment? Have YOU men done that every single time you have had sex?

Did you postpone sex until you took your wife/girlfriend to a clinic to choose together the very best birth control for her health and lifestyle -- and did you pay?

And, were YOU using a condom each and every time for her safety and yours?

How many birth control options can you name off the top of your head and do you know the relative effectiveness rates and the dangers?

If you have sex with women you don't know and they tell you they are using oral contraceptives, do you check to verify?
Do you verify is a partner says she is using an IUD?

If you have sex with women you don't know and they tell you they are using oral contraceptives, do you check to verify?
Do you verify if a partner says she is using an IUD?

That's a trick question! Don't have sex with women you can't trust!

Did you wait to become sexually active until you could afford to pay for prenatal medical care for a pregnant woman, hospital delivery if needed, pediatric care for a baby, medical follow-up for the mother and on-going child care for your off-spring? 

Yeah, well I know you and you didn't.

Why not, slacker!?!

Because a pregnant woman who doesn't have an abortion has no choice. She cannot run and she cannot hide.

I love you, but you are living in a La-la Land of your own devising where some imaginary sluts that you have never met get pregnant because they are irresponsible.

They are your wives, mothers, sisters, aunts. They got pregnant by the likes of you and your best friends. They had abortions because they had no money, no support, no food, no car, no apartment, no partner and being pregnant would have ruined their lives. They would rather be dead.

Convenience? You think women have abortions for convenience? You obviously have no imagination - and imagination is empathy. You don't care, dudes. You just don't care.

Come down from your high and mighty perch. I know just who you are. 

Much, much love!